The Five Love Languages.

The concept of the Love Languages is, to me, one of the most important and practical theories I have learned in my pursuit of relational bliss.

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the successful book "The Five Love Languages", the five love languages include:

1) Affirmation - verbal compliments, encouragement, confidence boost, etc.

2) Quality time.

3) Receiving gifts.

4) Acts of service - helping with housework, simple chores, etc.

5) Physical touch - not just sexual intercourse, but sometimes as simple as a kiss, a hug, or a hand on the shoulder.

As the theory goes, each of us speak, and is most receptive of, one or more of the five emotional languages above.

The problem is, our love language may or may not be the same as our spouse / friend / children. A lot of the relationship conflicts (not just marriage, but friendship or parent-children conflicts) arise because of a misinterpretation of the other's love language. For example, I may express my love to you by spending hours in the kitchen cooking a fancy meal (act of service), when all you want is for me to sit beside you and chat about your day (quality time). Nobody is at fault, it's just a mismatch and misunderstanding of each other's love language. Once we have a better understanding of our spouse's love language, then we can express our love in a way which is most effective, hence reducing misunderstanding and frustrations.

This book is good for anyone who is in any form of relationship.

The Morality Quiz.

From Time magazine.

I just wish I would never be put into the situations described in the test. This is far too much for my three-celled-brain to handle. And I am most certain that whatever action I take in those scenarios, it'll probably turn out to be morally questionable, one way or another.

(See also the article.)

My legs are still shaking.

No exercise is better than a hike on a Sunday afternoon!



























Now I feel very justified in having a huge dinner (am thinking
sushi and red bean ice-cream)!!

Counting down.

Two more weeks and BB's two-week holiday will kick off!

It's about time - BB has been extremely stressed at work lately and is in desperate need of a break. So this two-week holiday is his early Christmas present.

Unfortunately I have used up my annual leave long before, so I am only spending a few days with him in his favourite holiday destination.

I am dreaming of hawker centre food already!

很久以前，我們曾一起坐飛毯。

此刻的我，傷風依舊，喉嚨癢癢，咳得半死。

但我很快樂啊。

原來，我一直，比我想象中的，更加關心你。

到了新公司後，要加油啦。

Jasmine is a star!

My goddaughter is on TV!

咩事呢究竟？

爲何一件超級簡單，在任何一間公司可以3天辦妥（如在我以前工作的律師樓，1天！）的小事，在這家公司裏，3個月後還是停留在“管理層審批”階段? 這三個月來，爆了不同的大大小小的鑊，全都是因爲管理層（一層又一層）未能及時審批這簡單小事情。明明可以避免的問題，全因一個“慢”字，搞到一鑊泡。今天剛發現，還要上呈更高一層。講到尾，人人想卸膊。

極度沮喪。

現在連政府部門都有performance pledge啦。

中資機構，唉。

想說 -- 2007。

這幾天，忙到頭暈眼花，每天返工做不停。很久沒有試過有這麽大的工作壓力了。（我知我知，你會話只是我以前太太太得閒，寵壞了之嘛。我完全同意喎。）。

想說的是，忙的時候，時間過得特別快。還有7.5星期，2007便結束了。

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朋友們說，今年聖誕節，不如跟舊年一樣，去你們家開party囉！我沒多想，便說好呀。當天晚上沐浴時，想呀想呀，想起去年的聖誕，有20人喲（全是我們的至親好友）！今年卻少了一個了。然後，三百多天前的映像在眼前清晰地浮現起來。 我記得我們為派對起了個dress code “Red”，所以每個人的打扮都帶點紅色。我記得那隻文華酒店大火雞，Ms L弄的cheese cake，那個放在大門口裝Secret Santa禮物的紙箱，誰買了什麽禮物給誰（除了你，還有誰會懂得買Mr. Potato Man the Darth Tater給伯伯？），誰輸了遊戲要罰吃什麽（Sangria, roasted vegetables and turkey stuffing！）。我記得午夜過後，大部分人都走了，剩下幾個男生興奮地在玩Xbox Rainbow Six，幾個女生在談心事。我記得你打機時緊張的模樣。

想說的是，物是人非。2007年，難忘的一年。

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未來幾天，要努力執屋，因為約了社區二手店上門收集家裏舊物。其實也不是什麽陳年舊東西，只是一些在舊居用了一兩年的電器和家居用品，搬了新屋後（一年了！）一直沒有好好處理。放在二手店，既可以替它們找主好人家，循環再用又環保，又可以幫助貧困人士。

想說的是，we should do something that matters in eternity, for eternity is what we long for。

Quote on Friday.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord,
plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future.
Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.

--- Jeremiah 29:11-12

Apple IMac.

唔係話明係plug and play咩？點解個Windows XP install完九萬幾次都重係有問題？依家重話比我聽個keyboard有bug，唔掂得個"caps lock" key？

點解Apple D電腦賣得咁貴，都唔check清楚無問題先launch呢？

搞到我依家非常沮喪，想斬人囉。